Niels had to draw a picture of his family for school.
He came and showed it to me and was so proud that he included the new baby. But if you are good at math you might notice that someone is missing. So we went through everyone in the picture. The family member not there is the husband. I asked "where's dad?" Niels answered, "he's gone." in a matter of fact way.
The husband has been "gone" for a little more than half of Niels' short life.
And so I guess this is what happens.